Three Steps to Freedom
The three steps to freedom is a life-changing program that helps an individual move through their blocks and navigate their life in a whole new way. The process is a emotional rollercoaster that leaves an individual empowered to continue the work and build upon it. By breaking down the process to three steps, living freely and fully becomes achievable.
For many us, there are a plethora of variables that influence us from living fully in our life. Often, we try to control factors outside of our control because we have not learned to control the factors within our control. This process teaches individuals to control the only things they can control, making them unstoppable in their lives. When we can navigate our internal world with ease, we can flow with life as it is presented.
When we get down to human behavior, we all have many things in common. Most people are heavily influenced and impacted by shame. Most of what we fear is not that"we aren't good enough, stupid, or capable," we fear that those ideas may speak upon our worth and value in the world. For example, many people fear public speaking because they fear that if they mess up that will determine their worth. Historically, our worth is built by authority figures in our life; parents, teachers, coaches, siblings, bullies, media, and popular and famous people in media. This is where our shame is born.
We are not born with shame. Nobody is born with shame, we learn it. The good thing about learning anything is that it can be unlearned and Eliminated from our life. This is the first step in the process. We must first learn to eliminate shame and our critical self. When we do so, we start doing the things we were terrified to do, we feel free and lighter in our bodies, and we start the process of loving ourself. This first step is the most important step in the process and creates a huge shift in our life. Once we do this, there is no turning back. We can feel the freedom to be completely authentic and grounded in our bodies.
Elimination is a series of powerful exercises that will release all the shame we are holding and give us tools to not pick up new bouts of shame along the way. Also, we start strengthening our "loving parent/voice" in us to free ourselves from what is holding us back from living happy and full.
In the Elimination stage, we learn our whole story and find the areas of shame we picked up from authority figures in our life (parents, teachers, coaches, siblings, bullies, media, etc). We identify our shame by becoming aware to our "critical voice" part of us that puts us down, makes us feel small, tells us we're not good enough, and bashes our soul. We then step in to do the work to release the shame from our life.
In this stage, we learn to quiet the "critical voice" and replace it with a "loving voice." This is done by the shame work and by guided activities that awaken our love for ourself and by practicing gentleness in our daily life.
When this stage is completed, we feel lighter in our bodies and better about ourself. We have let go the parts of us that weigh us down. We may be more in-touch with our emotions, but may be easily triggered if we do not continue to the Navigation stage.
Navigation dives in deep into our psyche to learn all about our different parts such as the angry parts, sad parts, victim parts, inner child parts, parent parts and more. We will become reintegrated with our true self and become who we were born to be.
In the Navigation Stage, we learn about how all our parts interact and influence our life and we learn how to navigate them with our observer self. We get to know our key parts and the purpose they fulfill and employ actual solutions to reparenting the parts that may not be benefitting us in our adult life.
Have you ever felt to anxious, easily angered, overly detailed, perfectionistic, or have difficulty moderating or balancing behaviors or substances in your life? This stage helps us navigate all those parts to bring a sense of balance that happens naturally.
When this stage is completed, we feel deeply connected and loving to ourself. There is no part of us that we dislike. We understand our strengths and weaknesses and move within our life with a higher level of emotional regulation. We can feel our feelings but are not overwhelmed by them. To complete the process, we continue to the Integration Stage.
Integration is the last stage that puts the first two stages together and works through any other limiting behaviors or blocks we may be holding onto. We also learn to jump in and have tremendous fun and joy in our life.
In the Integration stage, we learn to integrate what we've learned into our daily life. We have more opportunities to release any shame and practice being loving to ourself. There are also many things that can come up that require flexibility in the approach to change. These things are usually minor tweaks we need to make in our life to make the change. Since we have the foundation from the first two stages, we find change to be a much easier thing that we sometimes enjoy.
In this stage, Kevin tailors his work to your specific situation but has previously helped clients be receptive to the love of others, practice the art of play, takes big steps of vulnerability and risk, deepen in boundaries, understand the way of peaceful communication and more.
This stage helps tie everything together.
When this stage is completed, you will feel like a completely different person who now has the tools to move forward in their life. You will feel freer and lighter in your body, deeply connected and loving to yourself, emotionally regulated, and completely empowered to take charge of your life.
Clients may choose to stop, continue the work, or take a break and later continue the work because of the change they experienced from these 3-steps. Many experience a difference in their life and want to continue the shift. Many believe in the notion "the work is never done. We always have more layers of the onion to work through." Elimination and Navigation laid the foundation for the work. We can continue by repeating the integration stage as new work is revealed.
Continued integration helps keeps our screws on tight so we can work to our fullest potential. It also gives us a partner to walk through the difficult times together.
Continuing is always an option is never necessary, but you are always welcome back.